To Eat or Not to Eat
I want to introduce you to a 13 year old boy named Ken. Ken was on the edge of an abyss. This is a true story and it really happened to Ken. He was entering his teen years and he was confused, bewildered and
just plain scared. Ken was a missionary kid. He was leaving the U.S. to go back to the country of New Zealand without his two sisters, only his Mom and Dad. He was going to a new city and new school and new church. He had no friends or even anyone he knew. He didn’t even have his dog any more. It was a scary time for a kid. Although no one knew it at the time, he had started into anorexia.
Ken was a good looking kid, but he was husky, definitely not fat, but well built. Some of his skinny friends in the U.S. had made fun of him. So upon reaching this unknown state he was in, he did the only thing that he had any control over. He decided that he would lose weight. Being 13, he had had no practice in dieting.. So, he simply stopped eating. His Mom noticed a few days into the fast that he wasn’t eating, but Ken learned to lie rather quickly. He would say that he had already eaten at a friend’s house, or at school, or any place to throw Mom off his trail. The days slipped into weeks and the weeks into months. Mom threatened and tried to get people to listen to her, but it truly seemed like she was imagining it all. Ken continued to lie and exercise and lose weight.
I don’t know if you have ever been around anyone with anorexia, but they get to be skin and bones. They lose weight everywhere, their feet, hands, face, legs, everywhere, but their nose. Ken’s nose began to stick out between sunken cheeks. He was changing his looks drastically. By this time, everyone was noticing how skinny he was. Dad began to be major upset. He threatened the boy and tried to force him to eat. Have you ever tried to make a child eat? It can’t be done. These were no ordinary parents, in that they were loving and affectionate and cared greatly for the boy, but it wasn’t enough.
After a few months they contacted an American doctor friend they knew. She thought that it was anorexia and prescribed a modification in behavior. That doesn’t work. So they took him to a physician. He took tests and talked to the boy and found that he was indeed anorexic He suggested treatment in a psychiatric hospital and forced feeding. This seemed to throw up red flags to the parents. If it wasn’t medical then it was spiritual. The psychiatrist treatment would be a sorry substitute for spiritual treatment. Ken was a boy in trouble and needed some answers.
The parents thought for awhile that it might be demonic. Indeed, the boy thought that he was fat when clearly he wasn’t. He would look in a mirror and see fat. They tried praying for Satan to leave him, but that didn’t work. Now desperation set in. Mom cried and cried continually. All either of them could think about was Ken and what might happen. If he didn’t get treatment soon, his organs could start to shut down. Many anorexics die from anorexia. You can threaten, bribe, encourage, discipline, appeal to his reasoning, but you cannot force a child to eat. The only thing they knew to do was to take Ken to a counseling center in CO where a man of like faith had an office. So soon Ken and his Mom were on a plane flying to CO for counseling.
Ken had been not eating for 9 months. It was the worse time of our lives. You see, Ken was my son and my DH and I and Ken went through this terrible time together. I honestly didn’t know if Ken would live or not. I would wake up at night crying while dreaming of Ken. I wouldn’t wish such a time on my worst enemy, but out of our worse time in our lives, came our greatest blessing. It won’t be easy to describe to you what happened in such a short space, but I will try. The psychiatrist would have tried to treat Ken with worldly wisdom. We only look to God for answers and in His book that He has given to us.
In five short days of about 3 hours of counseling a day, Ken was over his anorexia. I know that many say that a person is never over anorexia, but when God sets you free you are free indeed. (John 8:36) Ken’s problem was that he was in the center of his life. He only cared about his own truth and how he saw himself. God was not in the center, and Hello, God won’t take a second seat to anybody. Don’t be too critical of the anorexic or of Ken, because most everyone is in the center of their own life. They want to be in control and do not step down for God’s control. John and I discovered that we were in the same boat as Ken. We controlled our own lives too. The smoker is there, the druggie is there and the alcoholic and the gambler and you name it. Everyone wants to be in control, and God is saying “go on then, but don’t ask me to help.” Most Christians go on for years being in the center of their own lives. Look at the Israelite s wandering in the wilderness for 40 years, it is exactly the same. They said that they would be in control. There is a saying to “let go and let God” . It is too simplistic but it is true. As along as you want to be in control, God will let you, but if you want Him to bless you, then you must step aside and allow God to do with you as He wants. What ever that means is what is best for you. And so it was with Ken and with us. We wanted God’s best for our lives and we had to give Him permission to take over and we did it verbally in prayer and He took center stage.
Today our son is the pastor of the International Baptist Church in Howick, New Zealand. He is restored completely to us and our relationship is wonderful. There is no hint of anorexia in the man. If you need this type of release you must read Romans 12:1-2 and present your body a living sacrifice. If this has been a blessing to you, please let us know.
Angels are yielded,