Love and Marriage go together like a horse and carriage…horse and carriage.  That was a popular song back in the 50s.  Now, the song is long forgotten.  The concept is long forgotten, too. Fifty percent of marriages end in divorce.  Fifty percent of society believes that God’s commandments are obsolete.  As I see it, we have turned into self-centered people.  It takes a lot of selflessness to make a marriage work.  

Many of God’s people start off wrong. Society teaches that when you are attracted to someone you hunger for, that is love, but in actuality, it is probably lust. Then we marry and make vows, but you are married, and it isn’t easy to divorce. Now starts the hard work.

So many of us have lost our way. We need to regain a true definition of love. Love is not an emotion or feeling.  Feelings lie to you.  Satan can work through your feelings. Love, my friend is a choice. You can choose to love your mate even though you might not like him or her.  When you choose, it can bring about feelings, and then it will feel like love.

As a people, we fail to see the part that Satan plays in our lives. We fail to have daily devotions, Our prayer life is haphazard.  Then we wonder why our kids have become rebellious.  You tell your child to do the dishes, and they walk away.  Call them back and tell them you are Mom, and you tell them to do it.   When they say “why” you tell them ”because I said so, and God has given me the authority.”   

In order to make a marriage work, parents must be respected. Respect and love must be present for a marriage to work.  Don’t be afraid to show love in front of the children.  Daddy is kissing mama should be their delighted cry.  Your kids must know you love each other.  

Set rules for your house, such as no swearing and no name-calling.  We don’t call each other stupid or jerk.  No hitting Mom, as it shows disrespect.  I see that all the time in restaurants or stores.  The child is mad and hits mom.  Take control, the child is spoiled.  He might throw a fit, scream, hit Mom, and say “NO.” This is a critical time.  TAKE CONTROL.  Pick them up, walk outside where you can be alone, and spank their bottom.  Don’t be too violent. Calmly spank and tell them why they are being spanked.  That is love, my friend. Good grounds for a good marriage.